It's Officially Breakup Season

If we refer back to historical Facebook status data, we are just about to enter the second major peak in breakups of the year.



The first peak, dubbed the "Spring Clean," occurs in March, but the second largest occurs about two weeks before the winter holidays. Right about now.



Why? It could be a lot of things. Maybe these breakups occur to avoid The Meeting of the Families. Maybe the vacation days are seen as a "good" time to break up because both people will be surrounded by the comforts of home and family. Or maybe it's time for a fresh start, with the new year just around the corner.



Regardless, if this data is any indication of what will happen this year, we are likely to see more breakups in the coming weeks than usual. It's so common, in fact, that breakups this week have their own name: the "turkey drop."



So if you find yourself in this group, know that you are not alone. You are in good company, and you're going to make it through the next few months.



The first thing to acknowledge is that the holiday season may feel different if you're used to spending it with a partner in crime. You might be thinking: Who will save me from the awkward conversation with Jill at Thanksgiving? Who will help me plan the ugly sweater potluck? Who will keep me company on that long red eye home? Who will I kiss at midnight on New Year's Eve?



It's normal to ask these questions and feel anxious about the answers, but if you find yourself stuck in a rut for too long, here are some ideas for getting unstuck.



Focus on family and friends



No family is perfect and many families these days are a melting pot of humans, some related and some not. This is the group that is always there for you, regardless of your relationship status. So take the time this year to focus on giving love and attention to them, especially the ones who are also not in romantic relationships.



Sit down with your older relatives and ask them questions about their lives so that you don't have to make up 50 percent of the story when you try to re-tell it to friends. Go through old photo albums with your cousins and relive funny memories. Learn how to make that life changing bread that your uncle makes from scratch so that you can go home and make it for yourself.



Your attention is the best gift you can give someone this time of year, and you luckily have more attention to dole out at family and friend gatherings this year if you're single. Enjoy it, because you don't know how long it will last.



Focus on those in need



There are a lot of people around you who will have difficulty making it through the holidays too, and it's not because they're going through a breakup. Many people, and the organizations that help those people, could use an extra hand during the holiday season.



Whether you donate your time, talent or money, giving to others is a great tradition to start this holiday season and keep going throughout the year. Many companies get involved with non-profit organizations during the holidays, so ask around the office and see how you can contribute or get something started. If you want to volunteer but don't know where to go, check out the listings at Volunteer Match.



Plan ahead for solo travel



If you usually travel home or go on vacation with your significant other for the holidays, you might find travel plans a bit more daunting this year. Instead of focusing on all of the people who are coupled up around you at the airport or train station, plan ahead and keep yourself occupied.



Make playlists for long rides. Get into a podcast. Write your holiday cards. Read that book you've had on your nightstand for a year, or, even more comforting, download the audio book and listen to it. If you're feeling lonely as you make your way from point A to point B, call a few friends you've been meaning to catch up with and wish them happy holidays.



Most important, make sure that you proactively make plans for the big holiday days in November and December if you are staying local. Even if it's just ordering takeout with a few friends who are also staying in town, it's important that you don't isolate yourself, even if you feel like staying in bed till 2015.



Remember, you have the unique opportunity to shift your focus from your ex to people that you may not have prioritized when you were coupled up (your family, your friends, strangers and yourself). Take it!



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